Competitive victimhood is based on resentment and fear, which often stem from unhealed wounds. But raging against others does not bring healing, it brings chaos.

The way out of chaos gratitude – that’s because gratitude undermines resentment by focusing on the good things we have.

We can become more grateful by taking about five minutes a day to reflect on the good things which have happened to us.

Bad events can be used to develop gratitude. For example, we can think about how these experiences helped us develop as a person, or we can imagine really bad things that have not happened.

Two things that can block gratitude are guilt and familiarity.

There’s still some mystery surrounding gratitude as it’s closely linked to spirituality. When people are feeling a deep sense of gratitude, they often have a heightened sense of connectedness with others.